Virtual Christmas Party Ideas: 12 Ways for Families Who Can't Be Together

A note before the list: we make Tribute, the group video maker, and it's one of the 12 ideas.

What are the best virtual Christmas party ideas for families?

Give every screen a job, and a virtual Christmas party runs itself. Most families still try to gather for the day: in a 2017 Pew Research survey, 82% of Americans said they intended to gather with family and friends on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. When distance, health or money keeps someone home, a video call with a plan is the next best room.

Open with something easy, put the biggest moment in the middle, and end before the kids melt down. These first five set the tone.

1. Ornament show-and-tell

Ask every household to bring one ornament to the call and tell its story in under a minute: the felt reindeer from second grade, the glass bird from a trip, the one Grandpa made in his garage. Go oldest to youngest so the kids hear the family history first.

• Time needed: 15 minutes
• Cost: Nothing

Best for: Opening the party while people are still joining.

Why it works: Everyone talks once in the first fifteen minutes, so nobody stays on mute all night.

2. Christmas trivia

One person reads questions and everyone answers in the chat or holds up a paper answer. Mix family questions ("Which cousin set off the smoke alarm last Christmas?") with general ones about songs, movies and traditions around the world. Teams by household keep it fast.

• Time needed: 20 minutes
• Cost: Nothing

Best for: Mixed ages, from tweens to grandparents.

Why it works: It's the easiest of the virtual Christmas party games to run, and family questions level the field between generations.

3. The family video premiere (a Tribute group video)

Two or three weeks before the party, start a Tribute and send the link to everyone, including the aunt who works nights and the cousin overseas who will be asleep during the call. Tribute is a group video maker that turns messages from friends and family into one surprise video. It works by inviting everyone to record a short clip from their phone; Tribute compiles the clips, music and photos into a finished video you share or play together.

Ask each person a Christmas question, such as "What's your favorite family Christmas memory?" or "What do you miss most about being home?" Then share your screen and premiere it in the middle of the party. Unlike a Zoom call, nobody has to be online at the same time, so the relatives who can't make the live party still get their moment. Over 8 million videos have been sent on Tribute, and it holds 4.9 stars from 7,000+ reviews.

• Time needed: 10 minutes at the party; open it two to three weeks ahead and set the deadline a few days before so people have time to record
• Cost: Free to start a draft; you pay from $35 when you publish and start collecting videos

Best for: Families spread across time zones, and grandparents who want to see every face.

Why it works: The whole family shows up in one place, even the people who couldn't join the call.

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4. Virtual gift exchange

Draw names in early November and set a price limit. Everyone ships their gift to arrive before the party with "Do not open" on the box, then each person unwraps on camera while the giver watches. For a twist, run a white elephant: wrap gifts at home, show them on camera, and let people steal by calling out the gift they want.

• Time needed: 30 minutes at the party, plus shipping time
• Cost: Your price limit, plus postage

Best for: Families who love the unwrapping more than the gifts.

Why it works: The giver gets to see the reaction, which is the part people miss most when they ship gifts.

5. Bake the same cookie

Pick one family recipe, send the list of ingredients a week ahead, and bake together on the call with laptops propped on the counter. Grandma narrates; the grandkids crack the eggs. Compare results at the end and vote on the best and the worst.

• Time needed: 45 minutes
• Cost: Ingredients

Best for: Kids and grandparents.

Why it works: It hands down a recipe in the person's own voice, at a distance.

Which virtual Christmas party games work for all ages?

Games on a call need short rounds and simple rules. Lag makes fast games frustrating, so pick ones where people take turns rather than talk at once. Each virtual Christmas party game below works with one screen per household.

6. Ugly sweater parade

Everyone wears their worst holiday sweater, or makes one with tinsel and tape. Each household gets 30 seconds to model it, then the family votes in the chat for categories like most lights, most homemade and the one that should retire next year.

• Time needed: 10 minutes
• Cost: Nothing, if you raid the decoration box

Best for: Everyone, including the teenager who swears they won't.

Why it works: It's silly, it's visual, and it works on a small phone screen.

7. Christmas Pictionary

One player draws a Christmas word on paper or a shared whiteboard while the rest guess: snowman, chimney, fruitcake, candy cane. Give each drawer one minute. Kids are often better at it than adults, which is half the fun.

• Time needed: 20 minutes
• Cost: Nothing

Best for: Ages 6 and up.

Why it works: Drawing doesn't need everyone to talk at the same time, so lag doesn't matter.

8. Holiday scavenger hunt

Call out an item and give everyone 60 seconds to find it in their house and bring it back to the screen: something red, a candy cane, a sock with a hole, the oldest thing in the fridge. First one back wins the round.

• Time needed: 15 minutes
• Cost: Nothing

Best for: Little kids with energy to burn.

Why it works: It gets kids off the couch and shows grandparents around their grandkids' homes.

9. Name that carol

The host plays the first five seconds of a Christmas song and everyone types the title in the chat. Speed up the rounds as you go. Save a family favorite for last and let everyone sing it on mute, which sounds better than it seems.

• Time needed: 15 minutes
• Cost: Nothing

Best for: Music lovers and anyone with a holiday playlist.

Why it works: Typing answers avoids the lag that ruins live singing.

How do you make a virtual party feel like Christmas?

A video call can feel like a meeting unless you add the small rituals of a real gathering. These last three bring the warmth back into the room.

10. Grandparent story time

Ask a grandparent to read a Christmas book to the youngest kids, holding the pictures up to the camera. Mute everyone else. Picture a three-year-old in pajamas pressing her face to the tablet to see the reindeer up close.

• Time needed: 10 minutes
• Cost: Nothing

Best for: Families with young grandkids.

Why it works: It gives the grandparent a role and the kids a reason to sit still.

11. Tree tour

Each household walks the camera through their decorations: the tree, the mantel, the lights outside. It's a chance to show off a new apartment or the first tree in a first home. Newlyweds spending their first Christmas married with the other side of the family can join this way too.

• Time needed: 15 minutes
• Cost: Nothing

Best for: Families in new homes, or with a decorator who wants applause.

Why it works: Long-distance relatives get to see where you live, not only your face.

12. The cocoa toast

End the party with everyone raising a mug. Go around once more and ask each person to say one thing they're looking forward to next year, or one person they're thinking of tonight. Then say goodnight before the call drags.

• Time needed: 5 minutes
• Cost: Nothing

Best for: Ending the party.

Why it works: A clear ending feels like a real goodbye at the door.

How do you plan a virtual Christmas party across time zones?

Pick the time for the people with the least flexibility: grandparents who go to bed early, toddlers who nap, the cousin on another continent. A Saturday afternoon in mid-December often works better than Christmas Day, when every household has its own plans.

• Choose one host. They send the link, run the agenda and keep the games moving.
• Test with grandparents first. A five-minute practice call the week before saves twenty minutes of "Can you hear me?"
• Keep it to an hour. Families on a video call tire faster than in a living room.
• Send invitations early. Free virtual holiday cards or a text with the link work fine; add the agenda so people know what to bring.
• Record the party. Most video call apps let the host record, so anyone who missed it can watch later.

Distance can be hard. AARP research found that 40% of U.S. adults 45 and older report being lonely, up from 35% in 2010 and 2018. A planned call, and a follow-up text the next day, can mean more to an older relative than you'd guess. Compared to a single phone call on Christmas Day, a party with games gives them a full hour with everyone.

What are Christmas wishes for family far away?

Send a message before the party, or read them out during the cocoa toast. A few Christmas wishes for family far away:

• "Merry Christmas to family far away. The table feels too big without you."
• "Saving you a seat and a slice of pie. See you on the call."
• "Miles apart, same playlist. Merry Christmas from all of us."
• "This year the hugs come by video. Next year, in person."
• "Wherever you're watching from, you're home to us."

Missing someone who won't be at any table this year is a different kind of distance. Our guide to grief during the holidays has ideas for remembering them together. For more games, see our family games for a Christmas party, and our holiday season guide covers the rest of the season.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do you host a virtual Christmas party for family?

Pick a host, a date and a video call app everyone can use, then send the link and an agenda a week ahead. Plan about an hour with an opener, two games, one big moment such as a gift exchange or a group video premiere, and a toast to close.

What are good virtual Christmas party games?

Christmas trivia, Pictionary, a scavenger hunt, name that carol and an ugly sweater parade all work on a video call. Choose games where people take turns, so lag doesn't spoil the fun.

How long should a virtual Christmas party last?

About 60 to 90 minutes. Kids and grandparents tire on screens faster than at an in-person party, so end while everyone is still having fun.

How do you do a virtual gift exchange?

Draw names a month ahead, set a price limit and ship gifts to arrive before the party, marked "Do not open." On the call, each person unwraps on camera while the giver watches.

How can family who can't join live still take part?

Ask them to record a short video message ahead of time and play it during the party. A group video collects everyone's messages in one place, whatever time zone they're in.

What should you say to family you can't see at Christmas?

Be specific about what you miss: their laugh, their stuffing, the late-night card games. A short message before the day and a call on the day go a long way.

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